I’m been thinking about rejection and I oddly come across this bit in James Altucher’s book Choose Yourself! (Which incidentally is a really good weekend read I will recommend.)
And he writes:
Since the beginning of humanity, we’ve looked for frontiers. It is only a myth that we have evolved to a point as a civilization where we can count on safety. The only truly safe thing you can do is to try over and over again. To go for it, to get rejected, to repeat, to strive, to wish. Without rejection there is no frontier, there is no passion, and there is no magic.
That resonated with me, I swear I’ve been just aiming to get rejected sometimes. As perverse as it sounds it allows me to be more daring and push the limits to things. You can’t imagine how much unexpected gains I received just by trying and believing I will get rejected.
By setting the expectation to a mere rejection, it hurts a lot lesser. I get rejected so often but I soon learnt the point is that I asked and I know why I got rejected. It made me stronger; it made me a sensible realist.